Living In Balance (Part 1) by Kim Fulcher

From Kim Fulcher's Compass Life Designs Newsletter

Living In Balance

This month we're going to talk about a loaded subject - the way you feel about how you look. Let's go...

In an ideal world, the way we look would not impact the way we feel about ourselves, but since we don't live in an ideal world; the truth is that most of us are impacted by our body image. This month, we're going to take a look at the way you feel about your body. I'm going to invite you to broaden your definition of attractiveness, and I'm going to challenge you to start taking great care of yourself.

A New Definition of Appeal
The first step in learning to accept yourself and celebrate your unique attractiveness requires you to broaden your definition of appeal itself. Quite literally, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We've simply had our eyes trained for so long that many of us have stopped thinking for ourselves. (If you fall into this category, don't you think it's about time to start thinking for yourself?)
Think about a man or woman you have known or seen who doesn't necessarily fit the stereotypical definition of attractiveness - yet you find him or her intriguing, enigmatic, and fascinating. Perhaps she has an incredible sense of style, or he has a bit of a swagger in his step. This person might be wonderfully put together, or simply have a warm and inviting smile. While this person may not fit the societal definition of appeal, he or she has found a way to embrace all aspects of who they are, and they are incredibly compelling as a result of doing so.

The French actually have a word for this kind of allure. When a person is appealing without meeting the stereotypical rules of attractiveness - they say he or she has joie de vivre. A person who has joie de vivre gets noticed when they walk into a room - no matter what their clothing size is. This person invests in their self-care, and is comfortable in their own skin. He or she not only gets that they aren't physically perfect, their ability to celebrate these imperfections makes them positively magnetic.

Examples of American celebrities with joie de vivre include Barbara Streisand, Susan Sarandon, and Oprah Winfrey or Colin Firth, Bruce Willis and Ed Harris. While America's rules-of-attractiveness might not define any of these people as appealing, as you look at any of them, you cannot deny that each of them is striking.

It's time for you to embrace a sense of joie de vivre and start walking around with a bit of swagger in your step. Are you willing to broaden your definition of beauty? Will you give yourself the gift of acknowledging and appreciating your unique potential for gorgeousness?

This week, I challenge you to make an inventory of the things you LIKE about the way you look. Select at least one thing you appreciate about your physical appearance, and celebrate it for the next seven days.

If you like your shoulders, wear a sleeveless shirt. If you think you have great feet - get a pedicure. If you appreciate your lips, use them to smile. The point is to invest a little energy in appreciating your physical strengths - instead of focusing on your weaknesses. Next week we'll begin talking about addressing what you don't like. This week, simply focus on what you DO.

Until Next Week...